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"Substance use disorder affects every area of our lives."

Victor Lee! A Lived Experience!

The Glass House of Success

Success, wealth, and status are supposed to be armor, but for many, they become a cage. You are surrounded by the signs of achievement, yet you have never been more alone. You retreat behind walls of privacy and “professionalism,” but you cannot escape the internal noise. No amount of applause or recognition can silence the truth of what is happening when the doors are closed.

The Price of The Mask

Whatever our poison, intellect, status, and money are no match for substance use disorder. Our persona—the mask of the person we pretend to be—is a shadow of deceit fueled by what we dislike in ourselves. We use it to hide the parts we refuse to face, but here is the truth: people see us anyway. The cost of maintaining the mask is your physical, mental, spiritual, and relational freedom.

The Intellectual Trap

This trap is a snake consuming the wise and the unwise alike—our own intelligence is often what ensnares us. Transformation, unlike mere change, explores the blind spots: what we don’t know that we don’t know. We get to the “what’s so” about our lives by dismantling the stories we tell others and ourselves. This requires vulnerability—from the inside out. It is the difficult trade-off between exhausting control for authentic openness and isolation for true connection.

The Gift of Desperation

In my second year of recovery, my 6-year-old daughter was struck by a stray bullet while I was 3,000 miles away. Thank God she survived, but that moment was a collision with reality. I was doing “the right thing,” yet it took that “Gift of Desperation” to forge a commitment that led me to single parenthood and a life of purpose I never would have pursued.

Desperation is the most honest energy you possess. It is the “by any means necessary” drive that you once used to survive; now, it is the only thing that will allow you to transform. Don’t look past what you are already experiencing; cracks break dams.

I "Use-To-Be"

I had the privilege of working as a design drafter in Aerospace engineering on the Space Shuttle Orbiter 102 & 103, the F-111 & F-16, the Intelligence Satellite, and the Apache Attack Helicopter. These high-pressure achievements were impressive, but they were no shield against my addiction. It is a compelling history, but as one of my teachers, Les Brown, says, “Use-to-bees don’t make no honey.” You cannot survive on the position or the reputation you had while your life is currently at risk.

—You do not have to lose anything more—

Let’s go to work on someone great, YOU!

The Journey

Transformation is like going through the eye of a needle, and you’ll want to quit. My job is to talk you off the ledge.

Shedding

The moment you take the mask off, the sooner you will be able to accept what you are denying. That will be a great start.

Understanding

Everything that has made you successful cannot help but where you are unwilling to budge. You can’t be where you’re unwilling to go.

Transparency

“Your life is in what you are hiding.” The game you are playing is too small for who you really are, and it is killing you”.

Commitment

This will require the level of loyalty you gave your disease and more, and it will cost you a whole lot less.

Respect

You must be willing to give what you want. Respect me, your family, and yourself. No one else is coming; you are the one.

The Decision Maker

Truth be told, we don’t have a substance problem; we have an “us” problem. Forty years ago, I was “greasier than a restaurant mop,” yet I couldn’t see it. Truth alert: I didn’t want to see it because I was not done. Carl Jung said, “There is a conflict between the ego and the true self. They are pulling against each other. We are what we do and not what we say we do.” By taking this on, you aren’t losing yourself; you’re finally meeting yourself. Transformation is about peeling away the layers that are not you. It is a radical shift to acts of honesty that replaces the “Decision Maker” that has been robbing you of the power you hold to transform your life right now!

Transformation Requires Setting Non-Negotiables

Now, choose! Tomorrow is not promised.

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Testimonials

“While I was incarcerated, I heard Victor speak. He explained that Breaking Chains isn’t just about physical imprisonment—it’s about freeing yourself from the behaviors and emotions that keep you stuck. That message helped me realize the real chains were in my mind. I haven’t returned to prison and have been free since 2017.”

Dave S. (SUD)

“Victor spoke at our conference and delivered an engaging presentation, “Leading Change.” He stepped off the stage, connected with an audience of 300, and even got us up and dancing. It was energizing, memorable, and a lot of fun—we should definitely bring him back!”

Brian Morgan Occupational Therapist | LTCA Conference North Dakota

“Victor is an exceptional group facilitator and mentor, unafraid to share his personal experiences to help others. I couldn’t have asked for a better therapist to guide me through my challenges. I still keep the notes from his sessions and revisit them often. Victor has truly impacted my life—encouraging me to grow, reflect, and become a better person. I always chose to sit at the front to stay focused and absorb his wisdom. His teaching style, insight, and compassion are truly invaluable.”

Shawna Smith Client 2019

” I had the pleasure of attending Victor’s inspiring keynote titled “Who Are You Going to Be?” He shared his transformative experience with a stranger in May of 1985, prior to boarding a plane, which is now known as his freedom from SUD. I am awed by the remarkable milestones he has achieved since that defining moment!”

Brian Morgan

“I had the pleasure of attending Victor’s inspiring keynote, “Who Are You Going to Be?” He shared the powerful story of a life-changing encounter with a stranger in May 1985, just before boarding a plane—a moment that marked the beginning of his freedom from SUD. I am truly inspired by the remarkable milestones he has achieved since that defining day!”

Kathy L. SUD Counselor

“Victor has a way of walking into a room and instantly elevating the standards. He helped our organization shift from a mindset of ‘managing problems’ to a mindset of ‘designing victories.’ His perspective is fresh, his history is deep, and his results are measurable.”

Shelly | Co-Worker Phoenix West DUI Prison